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ADHD Stay at home mom – what works for me

Allison Zinnick

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First, a little background. In September I was let go from my job. Honestly, it was a big middle finger as I have dedicated almost a decade to that place.

As it turns out, it was a blessing in disguise. Don’t tell them that though. I have ADHD and anxiety, and as it turns out – this wasn’t the environment that I could thrive in.

When my husband and I first started dating, he made it clear that he had reservations about stay at home moms. I think he, like many, perceive(d) the SAHM life as one of Starbucks and yoga. It’s never been something that I strived for either. I liked being independent. I liked being able to spend my money on what I wanted. Don’t get me wrong, we shared responsibilities, but in a different way.

When I got fired, I was looking for jobs. Almost all of them would require commuting every day about 40 min give or take. I would have to put both kids in some kind of out of school care. The thought of working just to do that didn’t …spark joy.

I asked him if I could take on a new role at least until the kids were in school full time – “House Manager”. To my surprise, he was on board. I think seeing the weight that was lifted when I lost my job and the immediate pressure that was relieved, made him understand that this wasn’t the environment for me.

ADHD-ers often struggle in 9-5 corporate jobs. The monotonous tasks, corporate mumbo jumbo (circling back etc), combined with limited autonomy, and social challenges, make corporate life challenging.

So here we are. It’s been 3 months almost to the day since I became House Manger (aka stay at home mom). Here are some tips and lessons that I’ve learned.

Spoiler alert – my top tip is to give yourself grace. Ignore the desire to be perfect. Those Instagram accounts are BS..their house doesn’t really look like that all the time.


Mondays – I clean. My youngest is in daycare all day Monday & Fridays. My son is in full time school. So for me those are the best days to organize and clean. Cleaning could be it’s own blog post honestly, I’ve learned a lot about cleaning over the past 3 months. Also make sure to set realistic expectations. Being a SAHM is hard! Don’t put too much pressure on yourself.

As a supermom juggling the chaos of family life, you deserve the best tools to keep your home sparkling. Check out my list of cleaning must-haves that will make your daily routine a breeze!

Enjoy Quality Time

The best part of your “job” is that you get to watch your babies grow. I say that and then think about all of the times that hearing “mOmMmMmM” sounds like nails on a chalkboard. How is it both the most amazing sound and also the most annoying at the same time? But truly you’ll never get that time back. And I’m grateful to be able to have this opportunity.

Check out work from home options

Ok so full disclosure – the reason I ignited this blog again is to try to turn it into a source of income somehow. I’ve been building up my Pinterest to drive traffic to this blog, as well as to my Amazon Affiliate links.

I also am working on my photography, doing portrait shoots for free, etc.

It’s been nice to have a less demanding way to make money, that I can do at my own pace. I’ll never be one of those chicks though that posts on Tik Tok “ask me how I made $200 while I was sleeping.” And if you catch me, please call me out on it.

Although - I will say it’s weird to login and see that you made commissions overnight.

I’m still getting used to the idea that contributing to a household is much more than dollars and cents. There’s so much value in helping make sure that your home is running smoothly and understanding that it’s extremely hard to do that while also having a typical 9 to 5. Moms have it so tough sometimes. We’re criticized if we want to stay home. We’re criticized if we go out into the world to work. Join me as I continue this journey of learning!!

What are your #SAHM hacks? Leave a comment!

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